Wednesday, April 25, 2018

[US trip April 2018]: Literary fight night SFO

Pradeep took me to this. It was raining that evening. The literary-fight thing was inside the Jewish museum. After finding...we were late...parking, rain, late start etc. and we sat right at the back.

I don't know what to think of it. Let's see what I remember. the first was that lady with lots of hair...her writing reminded me of this free flowing script like Ulysses...like katha...in the end, i went and told her...what dd told me about katha and kahani...that katha has no beginning, no end...kahani has a definite beginning and end. Her piece was titled copulation or something like that. And there was the only guy...he read poems..he was a teacher from wisconsin...he won. And that lady who brought out candles...torn jeans...switched off lights...and said poems from memory. And that other lady who enacted very well...but overtly reliant on sex...something about when her dad was having parkinson's he started sending her his dick pics...because he worked on sex magazines in his youth...something like that. it was poignant actually.

I was most disappointed with the judges...yes, they are published...two were standup comedians...but so weak in their reading and assessment...very flaky. Pradeep said SFO is like that. A lot into look and feel and the outer. I don't know. Overall, I found the writing moderately interesting or too trying to be interesting...not simple. It wasn't the story itself...it was simply the way of telling the story...a deliberate attempt to make it interesting, shocking, titillating...an over-reliance on sex...oh well.

We later stepped out. Then went to that Japanese place called Ippudo...had sake...great and nice. We were almost catching up but had to go bcos amy was stuck in the rain etc.

Monday, April 23, 2018

[US trip April 2018]: Movies I watched on flights+


  1. Human Flow - Ai WeiWei's documentary on the refugee crisis and migration...I felt a lot.
  2. Wakefield - A wicked drama when a guy doesn't return home...but ends up staying across in the out-house. Life moves on without him. He becomes a homeless guy. And then in the end returns just like that. We overestimate our importance.
  3. Loveless - Russian movie about a couple going through a bitter divorce. In the midst their 12 year old son runs away from home. He's never found.
  4. Shape of Water - I got bored with this. Mute woman love with merman with fish eyes.
  5. Ready Player One - Wanted to see it for what effect VR will have. I slept twice during it. Went with Pradeep.
  6. Gabriel and the mountain - Portuguese movie...Brazilian guy travels in Africa like a local. Climbs Kili too (recognized so much of it). His gf also visits him in between. Ends up on a mountain in Malawi...without proper gear or food...leaves his guide...ends up dying on the mountain. This mountain - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mulanje_Massif. True story.
  7. Cloud Atlas - I was watching it for a second time. Couldn't complete it, plus slept here and there. But the whole essence of the movie...I wanted to experience again. That our actions both good and bad...cut across generations, across lifetimes. In the movie a girl (in the future) fights the wrong that's done to her species I can say (because they are produced genetically for the sole purpose of being hotel waitresses and then after a period their bodies are recycled!)...and in the way distant future when humankind is split between planets, lives in the jungles, she the same girl...is a deity...her statue up in the mountains...worshipped by all. A legend. 

Sunday, April 22, 2018

[US trip April 2018]: the Sequoias

I knew they were big trees. I've known for awhile. but i didn't research them etc. etc. I just chose to stay in Visalia, CA at an airbnb. It was a beautiful drive. I reached in the evening. Chris...my host...he was sorta big...with mustache and beard that don't touch each other...he crossed his arms while speaking or listening...in the house there was a cat and dog...the cat interacted with me the next day. he told me about General Sherman...the oldest and largest living tree...some 2,000-3,000 years old.

The nice thing about not researching is that you hear and discover things for the first time...like when Chris said..another human to me...he told me things...and he said...when you go up there...oh...whatever your religion is...buddha...doesn't matter...you'll see god there...you'll feel it.

that evening i went to visalia downtown...ate dinner at a mexican place i think...too high end for my liking. it was monday night i think so the downtown looked abandoned. next morning i recall waking up naturally at 6am...there was the marketing call...after that i went to WinCo to buy stuff...that lady there at the counter...she told me that after working for 10 years everyone becomes an owner...chris warned me to not leave food in the car because the bears can smell it...i spoke to mummy and nana from the car outside...

there was a traffic jam while getting to the sequoias. I stopped to pee at one history/local museum type place. they said on a sign to make a donation.

the first view of the sequoias was stunning. here was me and my car...and there was this huge, huge tree. i opened the windows...drove more slowly...staring at this unbelievable sight. the air...it was fresh...very fresh...and cool. i might've stuck my head out too. suddenly i also felt that sensation you feel when you come face to face with an obvious whiff of the Creator...

i drove...reaching the main park area. i bought that constellations cards thing for ahaan. possibly those cards for swaraj and ahaan. outside...i was on another call. i think after 40min or so i started driving because it was already afternoon. midway i lost the connection.

and i drove...to that point...where everything was...chris had mentioned Moro rock...so I started on that trail...but somewhere along the way I went in a loop, got lost...and ended up going towards Hanging Rock. Which was nice too. In the far distance I saw moro rock. i saw families...with babies hung onto them...walking here and there. A little while before...I settled in on a giant Sequoia...i took a video etc. I laid down my bag. sat there. so wonderful it was. magnificent. quite easily God-like. A few thousand years old. Far older than me. It just stood steady. Alive. Sturdy and yet very, very gentle. Calm. Strong. It embodied everything. Old. Aging. And yet alive and young. New. Fresh. It would let me do whatever I wanted. And yet its demeanor wouldn't let me do whatever I wanted. I felt connected. It was like me laying on Mother Sequoia's lap. It's roots go far deep into the earth.

I went inside a burnt tree. Hollow on the inside. But the outer surface existed. Graham (from Kansas or was it Kentucky...I think Kansas) whom I met later told me that when the tree catches fire...it burns off the dead...inside of the tree is dead...outside is alive. So I went inside this giant tree...following some kids who did it by crawling...and it felt cool, silent...the tree felt as though it's simply being, listening to everything around. Not reacting. Just doing its thing...of being. whatever the world may do or not do.

The fires make the Sequoias. They destroy everything around including the Sequoias themselves...and Graham said the heat let's the seeds come out...fall on the ground that's cleaned by the fire...ash...and several thousands of seeds around...and only a few grow to be plants...and from those plants...only few grow bigger...and only few from that grow even bigger...and 2,000 to 3,000 years later...may only one or two or few survive to be the Sequoias...the largest in the world...by volume. Adding ring after ring each year. Yes, it humbles you and everything that you drive yourself crazy over at work or whatever. Nature does its thing slowly, steadily...with lots of redundancy. It's taking a million chances before a tree grows up to give rise to more trees. Nature uses the same tool - fire - to make Sequoias and destroy them. And that's mystical and magical. It's seeking for a certain universal harmony...where there's nothing really that's good or bad or any label...it simply is.

The forest ranger (a lady) told me to drive to general sherman. And yet I wanted to walk. Then I met an old couple. I asked them how long would it take this trail to the giants...they said there was a lot of snow...it was already 4.30p...and it gets dark in the forest sooner...i had sports shoes...and I finally decided to drive. Good decision.

I got to spend time in the area of general sherman. named by someone in the army after his general. there were lots of people here. Stupidly I don't think I dressed appropriately...felt cold I think. I went to the tree...connected...asked if there were messages for the tribe...said, allow Nature to work on you and through you...

here's something about general sherman...

With a height of 83.8 meters (275 ft), a diameter of 7.7 m (25 ft), an estimated bole volume of 1,487 m3(52,513 cu ft), and an estimated age of 2,300–2,700 years, it is nevertheless among the tallest, widest, and longest-lived of all trees on the planet.

I had my fill...i would've definitely liked to stay on...and be inside the giant forest. still it was dusk and i had to go. i noticed i wanted good photos...to share with people...and i wondered how long will i keep running after these things...of showing off...of vanity...when will i simply be...

On the way back...I went off on another trail...to reach the parking lot. Seemed like a short cut? instead of the steps. And I was lost. Huh? I waited...I knew it'll be stupid to get lost at this time. So I closed my eyes...trusted my intuition on the direction where I should be walking. It was to the right...like north-east from where I was...and I moved in that direction. Soon I heard a car honking...thank you! And I knew I simply had to walk towards the sound. In a few min, I was back at the parking lot.

The girl at the park entrance had suggested I could drive up to King's County national park...and take another road straight down to visalia. Anyways...google maps etc. wouldn't work in these areas. I went...drove straight ahead to King's county...no cars were around. Everyone must've gone home. The parks itself are open through the night. They give you a 7-day pass. You can even camp there. I saw a beautiful sunset there. It was very very nice. I kept listening to songs on my itunes...i remember charlie puth :) it's linked to Ahaan's musical at school for me...

The way down was windy...and with darkness...difficult. I don't like driving fast and was holding up a car or two behind. I was also tired. Quite tired I think. Lack of sleep generally and the day. Finally after may be two hours or so reached Visalia. Was happy to reach. Chris had even checked with me via email. I went straight to a chinese restaurant...had a beer...so satisfying. Took the food togo. She didn't give me rice. Didn't matter. Came back. Happily ate...something mixed veg? broccoli? Ya, I ate a very tasty broccoli thing in brooklyn on bed-sty the night I reached there.

I slept well. Late. And left the ancients, the giants the next morning. Towards Pradeep's place in SFO.

[US trip april 2018]: people and what they said...

let's see...i met so many people...business, professional, family, friends, strangers...
  • the english literature phd airbnb person...this is the most intuitive experience i've had since my childhood
  • the michigan student who told me about the german town of westphalia of less than thousand people...I want to go back someday and work there
  • sctt...you have to tell me specifically why you say we are siloed...who is telling you that we are
  • ajy...yaar tu mera ek bada doubt toh clear hi kar diya (at that coffee shop)...tu kahin na kahin kheenchke leke hi jata hai
  • pal...why don't you just come in and we'll chat..(ajy and i cold-walked into wdi...)
  • wndy...come let me hug you (end of mtg)
  • smit...hey man...my cousin she's gone all vegan and got those curved jaws...that's what i want
  • cow business plan competitors...indian breeds don't give much milk
  • gaytri...ck made time for everything...for everyone (during the b-plan competitions)
  • andri...i knew already you'd say that
  • the girl from burkina faso who introduced me to cortado coffee...oh, you know where burkina faso is?
  • maxine who took us on a cycle trip in harlem...if you cut your hand and my hand...the blood is the same color (in jacob's restaurant)
  • the armenian sculptor who keeps building his rock sculptures (sisyphus rocks) even after people keep pushing them down...keep doing (said without actually saying)
  • Raymond @NYSS...you are welcome to go back there...I modeled in the morning myself
  • visl...I'd choose back massage over sex anyday (bed-sty, brooklyn)
  • visl...everyone wants to change the world but themselves
  • shrl...I want to do this for you...right now (and she sent out intro emails)
  • mishel...that's it? you don't have any brochures...it's all you...great (in response to me saying...why do you need anything else when you have me in front of you)
  • man in gym...sir, so do you squeeze and push forward while lifting those? (kettle bells)
  • the deer...stared and stared (in the tenafly forest, we were really close)
  • entrepreneur with achalasia...this conversation was disturbing but very useful to me
  • prasdm...medicineman...you can buy mushrooms there...they say sometimes cures cancer
  • cc...big...big (in flushing)
  • girl near MTA vending machine...Fuck you, I am trying to earn a living (in response to me saying, this is not the way...she tried to force-help find the right bus and ask money for it)
  • jn...am sorry I've not been myself since my dog died...
  • swraj...I see myself as a jazz player (in the car on way to chitti's in dc)
  • prash...did he say purugulu? (joking after thru telling us to eat punugulu in dc...purugulu means bugs like cockroaches...punugulu means bondas type)
  • green person after accalasia...even white people do...see
  • carid...I don't want to see them...I'm too angry
  • Mila...you look like you need some fixing up here (and she brewed coffee, heated pizza that brought back life...it was afternoon, i was coming after carid, exhausted)
  • Lady in cafeteria...oh on his birthday they send him such big cakes...he's a great and kind man...he hired me too (re dr isw...she's mom-in-law of myra)
  • ykti...i was nervous...would you think of me as less cool now?
  • ykti...you are very persistent...that's what s-hil said...(and she booked her tickets to slc an hour after I left)
  • prshanth...you'll see gurudwaras on the way there...
  • man from visalia...whatever religion you practice...buddha...whatever...it doesn't matter...you'll see god amongst those great trees
  • graham the bearded guy from kansas at sequoias...i'll remember that place...blanket...chadar in hindi...the fire makes the sequoias and also destroys them
  • forest ranger lady...drive to general sherman...it's already late...plus there's snow on the trail
  • prbhu...you can know potassium levels by big data analysis of EKG readings
  • shankr...macha you still sound the same..(i was facing the door in pd's office reception area)
  • mnish...the singular factor why people sign up is the quickest time you get back when they inquire or when they need
  • ami...tell me all about it...what went wrong that day (on the dining table)
  • gndu...machine learning is difficult
  • vjay...google paid half million to that phd student for machine learning
  • princ...hemorrhoid banding...(in that wine place in palo alto)
  • sorb's mom...when children are saying these sandals look good, it must be
  • hena's dad...your office is in malad? and your son...how's he? your wife where's she working...
  • samr...i'm in a happy place right now (while sharing ice-cream from that old shop in burlingame)
  • homeless man...no, I can walk...my parents died, then my wife died...I have liver cancer (outside mexican restaurant in SLC downtown...head totally bent, all his clothes and possessions behind, fingers thick...cigarette stubs all around)
  • 74 year old uber driver...i drive to meet new people instead of staying home alone
  • raul the ceo...i'm doing this 8-16 hour diet for last 3 weeks to control diabetes
  • cowboy m who's lived off the grid for 10 years and narrated his out-of-body experience...that happened on the day hale bob comet went past the earth...there was so much of love there...(later)...i've been alone all this while...all of you...it's been glad...
  • terri...it's so great to see you enjoy us and all that we do...and allowing us to enjoy you
  • 89 year old hal...you are like my son
  • hal...lemme tell you a racist joke
  • hal...she's my lady friend...she was an air hostess when she was young (she's 85 now, there was a black and white pic of her in front of the plane)
  • hal...you let him pet you Madison (madison is a cat...much like a fearful child...she kept running away...she's never been outside the house)
  • hal...never refuse nuts when someone offers you (and he ate some)
  • hal who supports gun ownership...guns don't kill people...people do
  • pal...jesus fucking christ...dad...
  • diane...they asked us to leave after 40 years...it wasn't fair...we just want to see patients...don't need a salary...and we want to take care of our two wonderful employees
  • cliff...you should've seen a lot of game there at this time of the year...
  • isha...i'll count to 19 this time (while playing hide and seek)
  • s-hil...you...you are a good boy (while driving to airport)
  • man next to me on plane...you really went to idaho?....we are on a choir trip to ny
  • chck...they are these mba types who are smart and think they know everything
  • musical note person...i'm not reading that shit (alex haley's roots)
  • phil...i never stay in a job this long...it'll be 5 years...i don't know what i want...i just want challenges
  • chtra...hmmm...yes you follow up...it's all healing isn't it
  • pd...anna it filled my heart when you both spoke so much that day
  • nanimama...plus (means in addition to bad lifestyle contributing to problematic health)...the babies are now subjected to a new babysitter...the phone
  • joke I heard and enjoyed in idaho...a hunter is stopped by the forest ranger. He has a bag of dead ducks. The officer pulls out the first one, sticks his finger in the duck's ass, smells and says - this is from Nevada, do you have the shooting license? Hunter says yes. Then he repeats, says - this is from Utah, do you have the license? Hunter says yes. Then Texas follows. Finally, the ranger asks him, where the hell are you from anyways? So the hunter unbuckles his belt, pulls his pants down and says, you are the smart ass, you tell me where I'm from...
there are lots more...will update as and when i remember...

Sunday, April 15, 2018

[US trip April 2018]: Idaho

What a trip it's been! I'm sitting on the couch in Hal's living room. Paul's on the side...preparing for his dmv test tom. watching american idol...flipping through channels.

the trip's been great education for me...in more ways than one. particularly about deep, middle america. nothing can teach you more than living, speaking, breaking bread with others. it's only in doing so that we can empathize or learn to feel for the other. nagsh said 'poor guy' to cowboy...because he sees only the part of him that lives alone in the mountains...that's where we don't get it. people outside don't get what it means to live in wilderness. and why.

(now we've switched to the Idaho programs...that hal's recorded...public tv ones...documentaries...we saw the origins of Idaho's rivers the other day).

let's see...let me start from the beginning.

i drove from sahil's...after we dropped off yukti...ate at a mexican restaurant. getting off from salt lake city...the land opened up...vast lands...clouds..mountains...and the wind...heavy, heavy wind that the car wouldn't drive fast...i wondered if the rental car was old or something...but later realized it's the wind...on the way to burley, idaho.

paul's dad hal - harold was welcoming. he has a cat named madison. she's very shy...scared to come close...he said today she's never been outside the house. she's come now and is sitting next to him on the hand of the sofa...where hal sits. i've tried make friends with her. but she's often scared. he asked me to feed her yday and today...which i did. she let me touch her...but withdraws...something.

hal he's born in 1929. he's totally amazing. i was actually surprised at the many things he does for his age. it's very unlike seniors in india or other countries. he drove over 100miles today. he's been driving everywhere. lives by himself. supports his daughter and son unequivocally when they need them. moved from california. fullerton. worked in the navy...wears a hat that says "CAN DO!" given by the navy...was saying today that he met his wife (she passed away 8 years ago)...when he came back from the navy...there's a black and white pic in front of me of their wedding...his wife was 16 years old...he looks very handsome like a movie actor. and next to that photo is her at age 50...she looks very young in it...paul said it has her ashes. hal also showed me pic of his lady friend from california...in her youth she was an air hostess...there's a pic of hers in front of those older planes. i also saw her birthday pic at 85...nice.

after coming back today after the trip...he showed me many things in the house...paintings, artifacts...old photos...lamps...flutes that he makes and won prizes at the county fair of cassia county where burley is. he's moved here 3 years ago. said retired then and moved here where terri is.

i admire him totally...that's what i said during the drumming circle last night...around the fire...i adore you i said...and i thanked for being so loving and open...he's been. i saw his pics in 60s...looks like narasimh...hmmm...he goes to church...doesn't like hearing swear words in movies...says have to go to confession...strongly catholic...he made us texas french toast yday. and pancakes later. he added chocolate chips to the pancake (and one packet of oatmeal) to surprise paul (he loved it)...

i learnt about trailers...how it offers mobility...to move around...some cost $200k. attach to pickup trucks...it's a different life...to always be in the outdoors...

terri's cabin was amazing...it was actually very luxurious. the bath...was walking distance...water from nearby hotsprings has been directed here. i enjoyed bath twice...in that hot springs tub. middle of the night when i got up to pee i saw the stars. so many stars. thot of ladakh, dx, mountains, cold, what's that slippers called...that...fully equipped cabin.

property...it's a word that's often used here...my property...when that happens people respect that.

Sawtooth national forest...cowboy took us here yday...wow it was wild. i've never met a real cowboy. and i didn't know what to expect. paul and hal always referred to him as cowboy. he's lived in the wilderness for 10 years. has high BP...seems recent. was watching salt/ sodium intake when we ate outside. he wore jeans...i was saw him at B&B repair at Oakley town...closeby. he was repairing jeeps along with Bob (Robert)...who's both Oakley town's mayor and repairman. that was interesting. he took us that day to city of rocks along with terri. i enjoyed it very much. and they were both surprised and enjoyed seeing me enjoy so much. i touched everything. climbed. went along.

next day was even more interesting. in a red 4x4 we went...terri drove first. it was fun to see two-two cowboy hats in the front seats. we kept going going. looking for mines i think. cowboy had been there years ago...he's been there 10 years. and he couldn't exactly find it. but we were on an adventure. we went up and behind rocks, mountains, grasslands...sage grass smell all around. he took out a knife when we needed to dig out peanut butter. he never spoke much. has a white mustache and beard. 64 years or so. bluish-grey eyes (paul, terri, hal...all seemed to have similar eyes...even amy i think). we got lost...deep in the mountains...and finally he found the way back...we went out from the other side of the mountain we were at...almost close to the utah border 20 miles...the other side would take us to nevada...these are dirt roads interior deep....we were many miles away from the cabin. he was tired by the time we reached.

he taught me how to shoot. by giving me his real pistol. i don't know what exactly it was...perhaps .22 caliber. there was a branch in the water...he said aim at that. and i did. paul asked him if i could etc. by then i was wearing a cowboy hat myself...we bought it at cal ranch the previous day...it's hanging on the hat hanger now.

we all gathered at night...drumming circle...cowboy kept saying the spirits will come out tonight. the rattle was made of seeds. earlier he told us a story. the time when hale-bop comet flew by...see below...

Hale-Bopp was an unusually bright comet that swung near Earth in the late 1990s, reaching its closest approach to the planet in 1997. It was most spectacular in theNorthern Hemisphere and visible to the naked eye for about 18 months.

that night he had a near-death experience. he said his spirit soared to the roof and saw everything that was happening around. there was a spirit horse that he rode on holding its mane...it took him to a native indian chief who asked him why he came...a few min before, he showed us a stone a special stone...that represented all directions from native Indian culture...north, south, east, west...and that day...he could soar see people...it was that day...someone gave him that stone...he had a choice whether to go on...or return...he said almost like anita moorjani...bcos the other side felt so happy...he was on his spirit horse...he looked into my eyes as he narrated. we were in his trailer. outside where all kinds of vehicles. ATV...snow boats etc. when we parted today...he said come back.

the climb this morning...i got up before paul and hal...after eating a banana...walked around...the mountain was calling me...it's steep...there are rocks on top. wanted to reach there. i went the other way first...but there was a fence...then i came back...and simply started climbing...i must say it was comfortable...i was more scared of snakes...for whatever reason...i later found out snakes won't come out in this season...they usually like sitting on rocks...rattlers...i went up and up and up...reached a boulder...there i stacked the stones...paul said it's called carin...then i went further...there was a bush....green...behind that...some more on top....and i reached the rocks...the base...i made another stack...offered my prayers...lied down with stomach...i was feeling the earth...fully...did ho'oponopono...pachamama...i could've gone higher...the mountain could've continued...but i didn't want to worry paul and hal...they would've got up...i returned...climbed down quickly...saw paul...then he came out again...and then hal too...shouted out to them...later they kept talking about it with others..."he wasn't even winded"

it was cliff (father of the mayor) who said...there's a lot of game at this time of the year...aren't people in this town nice and friendly?

hal taught his kids a call sign...goes like ooouppp...families...memories...as children...several times paul and terri were talking about...do you remember that time when...

("shyanne? what kind of a name is that?"...an aspiring cyclist on idaho public tv...she's cycling with her 72 year old grandma)

mount borah is the highest point...

minitonka - falling water.

snake river...longest...1400 miles...it goes nearby...